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Hello tea lovers,

I thought this is a good topic to discuss as quite often I get a client who continually asks yes and no questions.  Having a reading of any sort is for guidance and the best types of readings is when we look at the question and all the nuances we see in the tea leaves or in the cards or charms.

So let’s delve into it. 

Have you ever sat down either as the reader of the client (sitter) for a tarot card pull, a charm casting, or a tea leaf reading, your mind buzzing with questions, only to draw a complete blank on what to actually ask? Or perhaps you’ve received an answer that felt vague, confusing, or completely unrelated to what you were hoping to discover?

You’re not alone. The single most important factor in a meaningful and insightful divination session isn’t the deck, the tools, or even the reader’s skill, it’s the question you ask. The question is the key that unlocks the door to wisdom. A poorly phrased question is like a key that’s the wrong shape; it simply won’t turn the lock.

The art of asking is a practice in clarity, intention, and openness. Whether you’re consulting the cards, the stars, or the leaves at the bottom of your cup, here’s how to craft questions that invite profound and actionable guidance.

The Foundation: Open-Ended vs. Closed Questions

This is the golden rule of divination. Your questions should open a conversation, not demand a simple "yes" or "no."  If you are wanting yes and no answers you are best to use a pendulum. 

Closed Question (Less Helpful): "Will I get the job?"
Open-Ended Question (Powerful): "What energy should I focus on to succeed in my upcoming job interview?" or "What can I learn from the process of applying for this position?"

A "yes" or "no" gives you a single data point. An open-ended question explores the landscape surrounding your query. It reveals the why, the how, and the what else you need to consider. Divination tools are fantastic at illustrating energy, potential, and underlying patterns—things that a simple binary answer can never capture.

Moving From the Vague to the Specific

While you want to avoid closed questions, you do want to be specific in your intention. Vague questions often yield vague answers.

Vague Question: "Tell me about my love life."
Specific, Open-Ended Question: "What blockages am I currently holding onto that are preventing me from attracting a loving, committed partnership?" or "What lesson is my current relationship teaching me about myself?"

By narrowing the focus, you give the reading a direction. You’re not asking for a general forecast; you’re asking for insight into a particular facet of your life. This allows the symbols—be they tarot cards or tea leaves—to speak directly to that theme with much greater clarity.

Empower Yourself: Focus on Your Agency

The most transformative questions are those that focus on your own actions, perceptions, and growth. Avoid questions that give all your power away to external forces or other people.

Disempowering Question: "When will my soulmate find me?" (This assumes you are a passive participant waiting to be discovered).
Empowering Question: "What can I do to align myself with the energy of a healthy, reciprocal relationship?" or "How can I heal from past heartbreak to be ready for a new connection?"

This shift in phrasing is everything. It moves you from a place of waiting to a place of doing. The answers you receive will be actionable steps, mindset shifts, and reflections on your own energy, all things you have control over.

Cultivating an Open Heart and Mind

Sometimes, we ask questions because we’re seeking validation for a path we’ve already chosen. We want the universe to confirm we’re right. Try to release the need for a specific answer and instead, cultivate genuine curiosity.

Leading Question (Seeking Validation): "I'm going to start this business, and it will be successful, right?"
Open-Minded Question: "What are the potential challenges and opportunities I should be aware of as I explore starting my own business?"

Approach your reading with the phrase, "Show me what I need to see." This creates a space for true wisdom to come through, even if it’s not what you were expecting to hear. The most valuable readings are often the ones that surprise us.

Suggested Questions for Your Reading

To help you begin, here are some powerfully phrased questions for common reading themes:

For General Life Guidance:
What energy is most present in my life right now, and how can I best work with it?
What message does my higher self have for me at this time?
What is the hidden blessing in my current situation?
How can I invite more peace and balance into my daily routine?

For Personal Growth:
What old pattern or belief is it time for me to release?
What is my next step in my spiritual journey?
How can I better honor my needs and boundaries?
What hidden talent or strength is asking to be expressed?

For Relationships and Connections:
What lesson is this relationship (or lack thereof) teaching me about myself?
How can I communicate my needs more effectively in my relationships?
What is the nature of the energetic exchange between me and [Person X]?
How can I attract relationships that are truly aligned with my highest good?

For Career and Business:
What is the highest potential of my current career path?
What untapped skill could be most valuable to my professional growth?
What energy should I bring to my workplace to create more harmony and success?
What is the next aligned step for my business or professional journey?

For Decision Making and Clarity:
What are the core themes and potential outcomes of choosing Path A? Path B?
What do I need to know about this situation to make an informed decision?
How might my higher self view this choice?
What am I not seeing about this decision that is important to consider?

Applying This Wisdom to Tea Leaf Reading (Tasseography)

Tea leaf reading is a uniquely beautiful and intuitive form of divination. The symbols that form in your cup are organic, fleeting, and deeply personal. They speak in the language of metaphor and symbol. Phrasing your question well is especially important here, as it sets the intention for the patterns you will see.

The questions above are perfect for tasseography. A general question like, "What guidance does the universe have for me this month?" allows the leaves to paint a picture of overarching themes. A specific question, like one from the "Decision Making" list, focuses the symbols to provide clarity on a particular crossroads.

Your Cup Awaits: A Journey of Discovery

The questions we ask ourselves shape our lives. The questions we ask the universe open doors to deeper understanding. By learning to phrase your queries with intention, clarity, and openness, you transform your divination practice from a passive prediction into an active, empowering dialogue with your own intuition.

Ready to see the art of asking come to life? The ancient practice of tasseography offers a warm, tactile, and profoundly insightful way to explore these very questions. The leaves tell a story unique to you and your journey.

Explore my collection of beautiful, hand-picked tea leaf reading sets and organic reading blends, specifically chosen for their ability to create clear, defined patterns. Each kit comes with a guide to help you begin your practice, including tips on how to formulate those perfect questions. Pour a cup, set your intention, and discover the wisdom waiting in the leaves.

Where there is tea, there is love ❤️...Karin xx